Conscious Discipline: Building Connection at Home and at School

Have you heard of Conscious Discipline?  It is a trauma informed, evidenced based, comprehensive SEL, social, emotional learning, for schools and home founded by Dr. Becky Bailey. I learn about it during my marriage and family internship. One of my supervisors recommended that I research Conscious Discipline because I wanted to learn more about how to help children.   Since then I have attended a one-day, two-day and week-long seminar. I was always the fish out of water being the only MFT in the room of preschool and elementary teachers and school administrators.  What I like so much about it is that it is based on relationships-connection--governing behavior instead of rewards, consequences and resorting to threats. Have you noticed that you treat people you are close to differently than you treat that you aren’t or even strangers.  When you are friends with someone, you tolerate and often ignore behavior that may have otherwise annoyed you.  When you have a disagreement you tend to resolve it amicably. CD helps the brain build neural networks, which increase impulse control, positive behavior, increase attention. Dr. Bailey provides parents advice how to build safe, secure, supportive relationships with their children. At school, this is done by building classroom relationships through songs, greetings, and activities. Younger children participate in I Love You Rituals, and older children in team building rituals with eye contact and touch, presents, playfulness. Something magical and mystical happens when people sustain eye contact.  An intimate connection is made. As students build relationship with teachers and friends disagreements and behavior problems in the classroom decrease. They have more compassion for each other and want to resolve disagreements instead of fighting. For children to be successful in school parent-child, teacher-student and student to student relationships are necessary. To increase your children's academic success go to

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