Loosing Our Kids to Technology

When I was growing up, 16 families including mine shared the same phone line. It was rare when I could talk to a friend.   When could, I couldn’t go to my room to talk in private because the phone was connected by a cord to the outlet.  It is much different today.  Teens have phones in their pockets and can have private conversations anytime and anywhere. Teens Prefer to Be Alone than with Friends The Atlantic published an article about the isolating effects of technology.  Jean M. Twenge, a psychology professor at San Diego State University and the author of Generation Me and iGen, interviewed a 13-year-old girl about her cell phone usage. She reported that instead of being with friends, they preferred being alone in their rooms using Snapchat and other apps to communicate with and in some cases blackmail each other.  The teen stated: “ I think we like our phones more than we like actual people.” She added, “I’ve been on my phone more than I’ve been with actual people,” Excessive Cell Phone Usage Leads to Unhappiness & Depression Studies overwhelmingly reveal the more time teens spend on cell phones, Instagraming, Snapchatting and Facebooking the more unhappy they are, and the less time they spend in these activities, the happier they are. This depression increased dramatically when more than 50% of America owned cell phones. Since then the amount of “boys’ depressive symptoms increased by 21 percent . . . while girls’ increased by 50 percent—more than twice as much.” One distressing warning is “Teens who spend three hours a day or more on electronic devices are 35 percent more likely to have a risk factor for suicide, such as making a suicide plan.”  Increase Fear & Anxiety Social media has other disturbing side effects. When not connected, some teens experience more fear as well as judgment worrying if their…

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The Dayton Shootings

After the tragic shootings in El Paso and Dayton last weekend, today I would like to share this inspired response from a dear friend of mine, Linda Theobald Sellers: In Dayton today, people are grieving, angry, anxious and heartbroken. The truth is, it could have happened anywhere. Let's not give into the fear. Let's stand up boldly and declare that "I am not afraid to live." Let's keep enjoying each others company and continue visiting the Oregon district. Let's not make this tragedy worse by causing businesses to fail and enjoyment to cease. Let's not turn our anger over this event into more hate and perpetuate the anger, hurting more lives. Let's not take on the deep suffering by restricting ourselves from having a good time, staying home and being miserable out of fear. We need each other. We need to go out and be social. We need to support everyone. Let's come together and grieve the loss. Let's love more. Let's listen to our neighbor more. Let's have more compassion for the hurting, the angry, the unsettled. Let's listen and actually hear their story. Let's find ways to spread love instead of anger and fear. It's easy to blame gun laws because right now; there is not much that an individual can do to change that tomorrow. But an individual can make a difference today by choosing to be more loving and kind. Choosing to mourn with the victims and their families. Choosing to gather with friends and make new friends at the establishments downtown. Let's erase our fear by loving our community! As you can discern from this post, Linda is a gifted therapist.  To learn more about her practice please visit https://www.theemotionconnectionworks.com/

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